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Ardmore United Methodist Church after the service
630 S. Hawthorne Rd., Winston-Salem, NC 27103
Saturday, Mar 17, 2012
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Service information
Ardmore United Methodist Church
630 S. Hawthorne Rd., Winston-Salem, NC 27103
Saturday, Mar 17, 2012
2 p.m.
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The Honorable Abner Alexander
May 20, 1929 - Mar 14, 2012
Arbor Acres, Winston-Salem, NC


The Honorable Abner Alexander, 82, died on March 14, 2012 at Arbor Acres Fitzgerald Health Center. He is survived by his wife of 51 years, Wynnette Garner Alexander, and their two children, Abner Spruill Alexander of Greenville, NC and Sarah Wynne Alexander Patten of Winston-Salem, NC; Spruill’s wife, Denise, their children Asa, Grace, Cooper, and Sawyer Alexander; Sarah’s husband, Jeff Patten and their children, Alex and Abby Patten. His two sisters, Dora Hanks, of Winston-Salem, and Nancy Jones of Burlington and brother Willson Alexander of Belews Creek, brother in-law Dr. Howard Garner of Richmond, VA and many much-loved nieces and nephews also survive him. Judge Alexander was born May 20, 1929, to Webster Spruill Alexander and Ophelia Willson Alexander. He was a graduate of RJ Reynolds High School, Guilford College, and Wake Forest Law School and served in the Army during the Korean Conflict. Judge Alexander became a member of the NC Bar Association in 1957 and was in a private law practice until 1968. He served as a US Commissioner, US Assistant Attorney, and in 1968 was elected Chief District Court Judge of New Forsyth District Court. He retired in 1991 and served as an emergency judge in North Carolina until 2007. His community service included serving as the President of the North Carolina District Judges, President of the Exchange Club, President of Ardmore Community Club, Master of Masonic Lodge 707, York Rite, and Scottish Rite. Abner was a loyal, lifelong member of Ardmore United Methodist Church where he served as Chairman of the Trustees, Church Council, Methodist Men, the Upper Room Class, and many other committees. He was an Eagle Scout from Ardmore UMC Troop #749 and Order of the Arrow recipient. He was an avid sports fan of R J Reynolds High School, Guilford College, and Duke University and had a wide circle of devoted friends who will miss him. There will be a private burial followed by a Celebration of Life service at 2:00 p.m. Saturday, March 17, with visitation following at Ardmore United Methodist Church . In lieu of flowers, memorial gifts may be sent to Ardmore United Methodist Church 630 S. Hawthorne Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27103, Arbor Acres United Methodist Retirement Community 1240 Arbor Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27104, or Hospice and Palliative Care 101 Hospice Lane, Winston-Salem, NC 27103. Salem Funerals and Cremations is serving the family. Online condolences may be made to salemfh.com.
The family would like to thank the staff at Arbor Acres Fitzgerald Center for the excellent care they provided for Judge Alexander.

 
 
 
 
Condolences
Larry Eubanks
There has to be a special place in heaven for you, Judge. I cannot imagine any lawyer who has appeared before you not having the utmost respect and admiration for you. You have certainly earned it. You were a great Judge and a good friend. Believe me, we will miss you.
 
 
Rhoda Billings
Wynnette and family, Don and I were reminiscing only a couple of days ago about the beginning days of our legal careers and especially about my years serving on the District Court with Ab and wondering how he and you were doing. It was with great sadness that we found his obituary in this morning's paper. Judge Alexander's service to the citizens of Forsyth County was marked with dedication, compassion and an innate sense of justice. As the first Chief District Court Judge for The 21st Judicial District, he established procedures and set precedents that gave citizens confidence in the new court system. To us, he was a wonderful colleague and friend who was always willing to share. We join the legion of friends and acquaintances who join in the celebration of a life well lived. Rhoda Billings
 
 
Rhoda Billings
Wynnette and family, Don and I were reminiscing only a couple of days ago about the beginning days of our legal careers and especially about my years serving on the District Court with Ab and wondering how he and you were doing. It was with great sadness that we found his obituary in this morning's paper. Judge Alexander's service to the citizens of Forsyth County was marked with dedication, compassion and an innate sense of justice. As the first Chief District Court Judge for The 21st Judicial District, he established procedures and set precedents that gave citizens confidence in the new court system. To us, he was a wonderful colleague and friend who was always willing to share. We join the legion of friends and acquaintances who join in the celebration of a life well lived. Rhoda Billings
 
 
Lisa Wooters Levens
As I read this, such fond memories come back to me. Judge Alexander was a dear friend of my father's, Hank Wooters, who were both members of the Exchange Club. Judge Alexander gave me my first real job, working for him as his secretary,and the other District Court Judges many years ago. In these later years my daughter had the privilege of speaking to him on occasion at Arbor Acres where she was an NA there. She always spoke very warmly about what a nice man he was. He has touched many lives and as I think back I am thankful for the piece of time he crossed mine. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
 
DOUGLAS P. CONNOR
I am one of three Connor brother who all knew Ab well. The oldest was Alan and he played footgball with Ab at Guilford. The next oldest was Andy who also attended Guilford and of course,knew Ab. I was the youngest and also played football at Guilford but after Ab graduated. I too went to Wake Forest Law and took advantage of Ab's good nature and sound advice. We was a preceptor to me in those early days and I have never forgotten his good nature and his willingness to "drop" everything for me. Ab was truly a GOOD Man. God Bless him and he remains in my thoghts and prayers.
 
 
Harry & Lynne Lilly
Wynnette. Our deepest sympathy and sincere condolences to you and your family. I'm pleased that Howard passed on the word so that we could let you know that we are thinking of you and the family at this time. While we cannot be present for the celebration, please know that we are with you in spirit. Hugs! Harry & Lynne Lilly, Arlington, VA
 
 
Judge Stanley Peele
Greetings and blessings to the Alexander family, I had great respect for Judge Alexander. His life as a judge had some remarkable similarities to mine. He began as judge in 1968, I started in 1966. He helped set up district court. So did I. We both were chief judges and both served in the Korean War. We both were the first in court and the last to leave. I enjoyed talking with him over the years, and missed him when he retired. He was a man of integrity and was refreshingly honest. He was a man of all seasons. My wife, Carolyn, joins with me in this message. Stanley Peele Emergency District Judge Chapel Hill
 
 
Julie and Mike Campanaro
Sarah and Jeff, We so appreciate the honor of meeting Judge Alexander during his prime! The fact that we were fortunate to meet a Winston Salem celebrety is icing! Although his allegience was for the darker blue color that is forgivable! What a daughter he raised in addition to his his son in law and grand kids. We feel so privileged to know this wonderful family..whatever you may need know we are here.... sincerely, The Campanaro Family
 
 
Stephanie Petree Priddy
I met Judge Abner, as my grandparents called him, which he was the judge in my child custody case. I gained so much respect for him that day, and the respect for him has grown even more over the last twenty years. When you mentionhis name, there are only good things and so much admiration. He was and will truly always be one of the best Judges that could have ever been on the bench. His advice has followed me through the years, and now reflecting on him, I can truly say, he was one of the "good guys.". He was one that is irreplaceable in our legal system. If only there were more like him today, then our world will be such a greater place...
 
 
Michael Hayes
I fondly remember Abner from growing up in Ardmore Methodist Church. He was a force to be respected and admired. It was an honor to know him. May you all be comforted in the days to come by the nurturing hand of God. I know he has touched your lives as husband, father, and grandfather.
 
 
Mary Sifford Whisenant
Dear Alexander family, I am so sorry to have heard of Abner passing on. I am praying for you all. I know you will miss him dearly but may his memories fill you with great love and happiness. Love to all, Mary Sifford Whisenant
 
 
Wilma Wray Pettyjohn
Dear Wynnette, Sarah, Spruill and family, It is with sadness that I learn of Judge Ab’s passing. Each of you knows of my love and deep respect for him. He was a giant of a man all the years that I had the honor of knowing him and the honor and pleasure of serving as his secretary and judicial assistant. I have been reminiscing about the days that I spent in the courthouse with him. Those were truly happy, good days. I never once dreaded going to work! He always had a happy glow when he spoke of you, Wynnette, and each of the children. I will miss knowing that he is here – but my faith tells me he no longer wears the judge’s black robe, but he now has put on a white robe and he is a giant of a man in Heavenly Father’s Kingdom. I will always love him. He was so good to me. My prayers are with each of you. Sincerely Wilma Wray Pettyjohn
 
 
jane michael
Dear Alexander Family, I am deeply sorry for your loss. I would like to share an encouraging scripture from God's word the Bible found at John 5:28-29. It reads:"Do not marvel at this because the hour is coming in which all those in memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment." This scripture assures us that we wil be able to see our loved one(s) again.
 
 
C . K . redmon
To the family, "Judge Ab" was the sitting judge in the first courtroom I entered as a young police officer, in 1989. He was a good, fair and impartial judge...something that you all can be proud of. He will surly be missed. May your sorrow soon be replaced with fond memories.
 
 
Carolyn
Even though I don"t know the deceased, I offer my condolences. I find the Bible offers important and encouraging informatiom. Read Revelation 21:3, 4. It speaks of a time when pain and death will be things of the past. This hope will take place right here on the earth. Again, I am sorry for your lost. If you have any questions or questions, please email me at the above address.
 
 
Billie Baggott-Hoots
Dear Wynnette, Sarah and Spruill, I join the many neighbors and community folks in wishing you well as you celebrate the wonderful life of Judge Alexander. Our community was fortunate that he chose to live in the town where he grew up and work to make our area a great and fair place. Always, Billie
 
 
Jamie Correll
As a former player who had Judge Alexander as a coach with the Ardmore Wildcats, I have great memories of him especially when he would line up against us with no pads on. Later on in life , our paths crossed again when I had to come to Winston Salem to testify in court. I asked where Judge Alexander was and was told in chambers. So I went back and he saw me and did not recognize me (it had been about 30 years) and he must have thought I was another lawyer coming to see him. I spoke and he said yes who are you and when I mentioned my name he just smiled and said "Son come right on in" The other lawyers standing in the hall waiting to see him did not know what to think!!. I have many great memories of the judge and my thoughts and prayers are with the family. We lost a great man.
 
 
Charles & Phyllis Strickland
Abner will be remembered as a very special man. Please know that we share your sorrow. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
 
 
Angela Strickland
Sarah, "Miss" Wynnette and Spruill, I was so sorry to hear of your loss. I'm thinking of you all during this difficult time and keeping you in my prayers.
 
 
Jimmie & Margaret Hinson
We were sadden to hear of your loss. Judge Alexander was a blessing from God. I am glad that we go to know him.My Daddy(Alton Tilley) and Judge Alexander were alway's going to Mickey's Restaurant for coffee and breakfast and to catch up on the latest news with all their friend's every chance they could. Judge Alexander was a great friend to all my family.
 
 
Connie Diab Exchange Club of Greater Winston-Salem President 201
The Exchange Club of Greater Winston-Salem would like to offer our sincere condolences in the passing of Honorable Abner Alexander to his wife Wynette Garner Alexander, and his family. His community service and his unconditional efforts to prevent and treat child abuse and neglect will never be forgotten. Unity for Service Exchange Club of Greater Winston-Salem
 
 
byron smitherman,MD
Ab and I were classmates at RJR and involved in many similar activities including football playing side by side. With great remorse I can say he has my love and respect. My sincere condolences to his wife, brother and all the family. Byron Smitherman, MD
 
 
 
 
 
 

         

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